I have had a lot of request lately to write more blogs that are geared towards moms and older women. These next few blogs are going to address a lot of issues and concerns and will hopefully help to inspire a more fashionable, practical, confident you! There are some tough subjects I must address before I write those blogs, as a starting point, before moving on to more practical applications. I want to be as helpful and considerate as I can, and in no way want anyone to get offended. I have been in retail for over 15 years and have worked with women, men and children of all sizes, ages and walks of life. I do know a thing or two about fashion and styling, no matter what my age is or what stage of life I am in. My blogs are here to inspire you, give you a new fresh take on fashion and hopefully make you feel more confident and less frustrated when it comes to your wardrobe.
CHANGE YOUR MINDSET
I can’t tell you how many times each day I spend convincing people that they are not too fat, not too old, not too this and not too that! It seems that for most people, our confidence has been shattered somewhere along life. Maybe we were made fun of when we were younger, maybe a loved one made a comment about a body part that made us self-conscious, maybe we saw the unattainable beauty in a magazine we longed for? Whatever the case may be, these words and thoughts have stuck with us throughout the years. We simply must change our mindset before we can move on or I have some news for you, you will never be happy!
Who wants to live in a world that constantly puts you down? It may not seem like we are unhappy but the reality is that I hear more negativity coming out of everyone’s mouths than I know what to do with. You may not notice it out of your mouth, but that’s the danger! It has become as nonchalant as saying hello. It’s in the subtle comment about our thighs, arms, face, and age. It’s the impossibilities and limits we put on ourselves. It’s the worry of how we will be perceived or that someone will judge us. Here’s another shocker…we are our worst judge! You know that thing you hate about yourself? Do you ever think that maybe that is the one physical characteristic someone loves about you the most or that someone else envies?
It is no surprise to me when a man or woman goes shopping and winds up frustrated and insecure by the end of the day. It might be that they just couldn’t find what they were looking for, but from my experience, it’s more than that. Most of the time, it’s because we walked into a store already defeated. We came in with a preconceived notion that we weren’t good enough, pretty enough, young enough, or whatever the case may be for you, before we even tried a single thing on! Can you imagine how that kind of mindset would affect you the moment you try something on and look in the mirror?
Do you see it? Do you see how utterly hard we are on ourselves? However loud or subtle we are, this must stop! I know I can dress anyone and make them look good but I have already lost the battle before it began. Imagine how much more pleasurable shopping, or getting dressed for the day, would be if you just accepted and were happy with who you are.
Here’s some more news: confidence is contagious. What would your work or home environment look like if you were happy with who you are and someone noticed? Do you think a co-worker, child, friend or spouse could be inspired to be more positive or have a different outlook on their life? There is too much media out there telling us we are imperfect; we don’t need to lead others to actually believe that nonsense!
Trust me, I know this is easier said than done and I have struggled with my own battles too. This is something I am so passionate about. I want people to have more confidence so that they can make an impact in their own world. I have taken the things I hated most about myself and have made a conscious effort to change my mind about those things. I have learned that when I stare into the mirror and start to criticize to change my mind and start pointing out the things I love about myself, or focus on the things someone else has complemented me on. I have learned that if I don’t believe those things for my life, I will never be able to convince someone of theirs. This is only the beginning and I promise that if you continue to take what I have said into consideration, apply some of these things to your life, you will start to feel more confident and most importantly, be more open to the tips and advice that I have to offer.
P.S. If you haven’t seen this video yet, maybe this will be an inspiration to you!
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